If you can acutely listen to a person, for a sustained period of time, you have won a friend. Unfortunately most people are very bad listeners. We only think of our own stuff and really feel to hear the other person or even attempt to listen. We must change this form of behavior if we want to influence people and get people attracted to us.
This is why coaches are really good ones are worth their fees – tenfold. A coach is not there to justify anything, a coach is not there to tell you right from wrong. His mission is to probe you to get you to decide on what you really think.
Procrastinators and indecisive people really need good listeners and coaches in their lives. Before an indecisive person makes a decision, they will play around with the idea in their head, always doubting what they will do. When you introduce a coach or a good listener, now the person can speak their thoughts. Ultimately a good coach will help the person come to the conclusion that they really want . IE – they will never force the issue or tell the person what to do – they will just probe the person to ensure that person come to his/her own conclusion that she/he always knew..
Good listeners can only attract great things in today’s world as they are so in the minority…