When people talk about their needs, their goals, their feelings on a given subject., they feel great. You can really attract people into your sphere of influence if you become unselfish and start talking about people’s interests. Start becoming genuinely interested in the other person. If you do this, it will be very easy for you to win friends in the long run..
Life is like this. When a person feels they have given a piece of themselves to you ( they have told you of their thoughts, feelings, etc), they are automatically attracted to you. Why?, because you have been unselfish and listened.
If you can do this consistently, you will have a lot of meaning relationships and be able to influence a lot of people.