Human Relations : How To influence people

Posted on February 20, 2012 by Jack Foley


Let the other person speak. The more the other person speaks – the better. So many times, people try to drown the other person with their own needs and wants. Remember these 2 things and you will start winning friends and influencing people.

1) Let the other person speak. the more time the other person speaks, the more times you are winning. people love it when you let them speak about themselves. Do this and become genuinely interested into what other people are saying

2) Try honestly to see things from the other person’s pojt of view. In these series of videos, I’m merely trying to get you to see things from the other persons point of view. Just by doing this, you are doing what 95% of the population are not doing.

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How To Persuade People

Posted on February 17, 2012 by Jack Foley


The Chinese have a saying “He who treads safely goes far”. This is so true when dealing with people. Why condemn or judge people?. There is a reason why the person thinks the way he thinks.

Ask him questions that will forced him to say yes. Using the yes, yes technique, you will slowly but surely get the person to start thinking the way you think. Getting the person to say yes brings down the walls. Getting the person to say yes eases the tension.

These are simple techniques where your powers at influencing people will blossom. How can you influence a person that you condemn?.

You may win an argument but by arguing you will never win the good will of the person..

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How To Show Respect For Other People’s Opinions

Posted on February 16, 2012 by Jack Foley


Whatever you do, do not tell another person that they are wrong. This immediatley puts up a barrier between yourself and the other person.

What I am trying to get across in this series of videos is that you have to start seeing things from the other person’s point of view. You must be respectful of their opinions. Stop talking about yourself and start taking an interest in the opinion of the other person. Why does he think this way. This is what you must find out.

Once you become respectful of the other person, you immediatley start to build a bridge. Respect is the key word here. Some many people in our world – about 95% are disrespectful of other people’s opinions.

Be a person that shows respect, that listen attentively, that always attempts to understand why the other person thinks like he/she thinks.

Do this and you will win a friend even if in the end , you disagree. Why, because now you understand why the person thinks the way he/she thinks.

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Why Argument’s must be Avoided

Posted on February 15, 2012 by Jack Foley


You merely cannot win an argument. It’s pointless to even try to win an argument. Why?, because even though you may win the argument verbally, you will not win the good will of the other person.

The thing is that arguments come about from the most simplest of things. The things are so trivial. I also believe that you can measure the size of a person by what makes him or her angry. Give your opponent the chance to express their view. Let them make their point. Do not interject, judge or condemn. This only raised barriers between the two of you.

Try to build bridges of understanding. Don’t burn bridges. The power of life and death is in your tongue. So may people do not speak today because of stupid trivial arguments in the past..

You always be the one to seek the higher ground by being sympathetic and compassionate..

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How To Attract People To You

Posted on February 13, 2012 by Jack Foley


If you can acutely listen to a person, for a sustained period of time, you have won a friend. Unfortunately most people are very bad listeners. We only think of our own stuff and really feel to hear the other person or even attempt to listen. We must change this form of behavior if we want to influence people and get people attracted to us.

This is why coaches are really good ones are worth their fees – tenfold. A coach is not there to justify anything, a coach is not there to tell you right from wrong. His mission is to probe you to get you to decide on what you really think.

Procrastinators and indecisive people really need good listeners and coaches in their lives. Before an indecisive person makes a decision, they will play around with the idea in their head, always doubting what they will do. When you introduce a coach or a good listener, now the person can speak their thoughts. Ultimately a good coach will help the person come to the conclusion that they really want . IE – they will never force the issue or tell the person what to do – they will just probe the person to ensure that person come to his/her own conclusion that she/he always knew..

Good listeners can only attract great things in today’s world as they are so in the minority…

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How To Get People Interested In You

Posted on February 13, 2012 by Jack Foley


When people talk about their needs, their goals, their feelings on a given subject., they feel great. You can really attract people into your sphere of influence if you become unselfish and start talking about people’s interests. Start becoming genuinely interested in the other person. If you do this, it will be very easy for you to win friends in the long run..

Life is like this. When a person feels they have given a piece of themselves to you ( they have told you of their thoughts, feelings, etc), they are automatically attracted to you. Why?, because you have been unselfish and listened.

If you can do this consistently, you will have a lot of meaning relationships and be able to influence a lot of people.

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How To Connect With People

Posted on February 10, 2012 by Jack Foley


The one thing that is unique to everybody living on planet Earth is their name. Yet so many of us forget to remember names when we are introduced to people. If you go out of your way to remember names of people, you will be accepted instantly.

Politicians know this rule well. They know the power of remembering peoples names. Remember that a persons name is the most sweetest and important sound in any language. Use this to your benefit. Become a master remember-er of names.

It pays to show interest in the other person. If you are unsure, do not try and guess the other person’s name. If you are wrong – you have basically expresses that this person has little value and did not offer you much before when you were introduced to him.

Adding the extra touch will greatly benefit your relationships. People will be automatically interested in you when you become interested in them.

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Use The Power Of Your Smile To Attract

Posted on February 9, 2012 by Jack Foley


When you start smiling at a person, you immediatley express that you are a messenger of good will. The ancient Chinese have a proverb “If a person does not smile continuously – then this person should not open a shop”

This is so true. People want to do business with people who are positive, who are engaged and who above all, have a good self image. People who smile are generally happy in their own skin. From this, like attracts like. People want to do business with people who are confident, successful and who have a positive vibe with people and with the thing they are doing.

Become a messenger of hope and laughter starting today. The natural reaction the smiling person receives from a person is a smile back. Don’t spend anytime thinking of enemies or bad experiences. Let your smile open up mew friendships and connection you one would not of had.

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How To Become Interested In Other People

Posted on February 8, 2012 by Jack Foley


If you adopt this strategy, you will stick out like a beacon as it is only the minority who do this. Start becoming genuinely interested in other people. Ask them questions and question their answers to really get a level of understanding about them.

Sales professional use this technique a lot also. We have this idea that a sales person is a motor-mouth who just spills out all over their prospect their needs and wants. This is so far from the truth. We need to get inside the head of the person we are hoping to influence. We need to get to their pain. What makes them tick, what are their needs and wants.

Professional sales people for example know their customers at a very intimate level. They know what sports they play, what they do during their spare time, where they go on holidays etc. But above all, they know exactly what they are looking for when they have to make a decision on buying a particular product.

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How To Influence People..

Posted on February 6, 2012 by Jack Foley


Influencing people is a skill that should be learned. Unfortunately in life, people only speak of their wants and desires. They think they can change someone or influence someone by merely speaking of their needs and wants. This is an untruth.

You need to arouse a deep want in the other person. you need to put yourself in the shoes of the other person. this si the best way to get someone to do what you want them to do. Everyone has different needs and wants. Some people are more motivated by money, by their health, by relationships, by looking after their loved ones, etc..

Get to know the wants of the person you are trying to influence. Then when you have discovered what they want, align their wants with the thing you want them to do for you. This is a win, win situation. When a person is self motivated, you will get far better results and ultimately will get him to do what you want him to do..

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