My passions in life are trading and investing and above all personal development. I truly think that personal development is the rock that everyone should live their lives by. When one truly understands the concept of responsibility and ownership, they are set for life. Let me explain. When a person truly accepts that they and nobody else are responsible for their relationships, their finances, their health, basically their life, then this person is on the road to success in life. The younger a person gets involved in personal development, the better.
So you might be asking now, I already knew that?, so what?. Then, why are you hanging around people who do not take 100% responsibility for the results they are getting in their lives. You want to be successful with your finances but you are hanging around people on welfare?. You want to be healthy but you go out with your mates 4 times a week drinking beer and eating crap?. You get the picture, to ultimately take 100% responsibility for me is to see a person taking full responsibility for how he acts, not says. “Behavior never lies”. It will be your actions that will bring you the results, not your words, always remember that. Experts say that you will become the average sum of the 5 people you spend the most time with. These 5 people are also known as your reference group. So a big question, who is in your 5?. Who are you hanging around?. What are they speaking to you?.
There is so much power in words. I don’t care if you are the most positive personal development pumped person I know, if you are hanging around negative people who are always complaining about their respective situations and results in life, they are going to take you down with you. Some of their negativity is going to enter your sub conscious mind and before long, you will notice yourself speaking the same negativity that you have heard. How do you think someone learns a language?. Its from listening immersion. A person learning a foreign language in a foreign country is actually more at risk at letting negativity sink in as his senses are more open due to trying to pick up the language. By sitting up at the top of class in school can drastically increase the students results. Why?, because he is hanging around a positive reference group where the theme is learning, not messing.
This idea of a reference group is so simple but yet most people miss it. Therefore I invite you to write down, who is in your five. Do it in the comment section if you wish and explore the feelings, ideas, sensations each one is giving you. Are they filling you up or are they bringing you down to their level?. You must be ruthless in this task. If someone is negative and always whining or complaining, they are doing you damage. I am not saying to totally cut them off from your life but let them know that if they do not stop behaving the way they are behaving, they you 100% have to cut ties, period. We are talking about your life here in which you are 100% responsible for. You cannot blame anyone else for what happens as it will be said to you “What were doing with him or her in the first place”. You are the master of your fate, the captain of your soul. Always remember that. If you are in business, you should be hanging around mentors and coaches. A mentor in one way is absolutely invaluable.
To have a great mentor means that you do not have to make the same mistakes that your mentor made previously. Also you will see will get to your destination much faster with a mentor because you have a guide. If you are in business and you have the funds, I really recommend that you get a mentor. Yes you could pay a mentor $1000 a month to mentor you but if he makes you an additional $5000 per month in profits, then you can clearly see that mentors can be a fantastic return on investment. However, sometimes the problem with mentors is that they can be very difficult to come by. Usually they are starting up businesses all the time or running businesses. Therefore their time is extremely valuable and if you do find one with a proven track record, then you can be sure that he will be charging top dollar for his time. What is the answer if you cant get a mentor?. It is definitely a coach. So whats the difference. It is this. A coach is person who will keep you accountable. Its his full time profession. It is his job to keep you focused on what you want, to give you ideas but above all to ensure your success.
To have a coach literally breathing down your neck ensuring that you are doing what you said you would do is worth his weight in gold. Having a coach is like going back to school. Its like having that nagging maths teacher that ensures that you are learning and doing your exercises. Here is the problem with entrepreneurs in business. Everyone reading this article knows how to make money from some venture. The easy part is always knowing what to do. The hard part is doing it. Thats where your coach comes in. A typical coaches question in an initial meeting would be “To get your business to the turnover you want, what do you need to do”. Whatever you put on paper will be your coaches blueprint. They are all about accountability and ensuring you stick to the goals you outlined to them. Another attribute that great coaches have is that they are brilliant listeners and they will never force their opinions on you. Look you the expert in your field, not them. A good coach will never say you are wrong.
On the contrary, what they want to extract more and more ideas from you. It is their job then to separate the wheat from the chaff and above all, keep you accountable. Again like mentors they are invaluable and its all due to what I want to discuss next, your thoughts. By having great coaches and mentors, all you are doing is focusing on positive stuff which goal is to make you grow. Cant you see now how everything snowballs in the right direction with respect to what reference group you have!. Scientists have said for years that the average human being has 60,000 thoughts per day. Thats alot of thoughts!. Now here is something more startling. Also scientists have proven that we as humans attract what we think about most of the time. So it makes sense you are going to have great results if you have mentors and coaches in your life. It stands to reason as it what you are thinking about. So obvious and easy but why do so many people not do this?.
If you are starting off and don’t have the funds available to hire a coach or mentor (Even though this is is a great exercise for anyone), here is a great activity you can do. Every day for 30 minutes, sit down with a pen and a fresh blank piece of paper. Write your goal at the top and underneath, write 10 ideas that come into your head that will help you attain your goal quicker. Do this every day for the rest of your life, and you will be amazed with the results. Here is what this activity does. Its gets you using your sub conscious mind. Remember this statement my friend and remember it well, all that you ever want in life, all that you desire lies between your very own earn in your subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind is absolute gold, in fact it is worth far more than that. By doing this activity every day you are calling on your sub-conscious mind to deliver you the solutions to attain your goal.
Mentors = 2 Heads Better Than One..
Once you write that goal on paper very day, that goal will be the only think your sub conscious will concentrate on and it will deliver you the solutions as long as you keep this activity going. After a few weeks, you will find yourself doing an activity or merely hanging out with friends when all of a sudden a solution or fresh idea will pop into your head that is related to your goal. You must write these ideas down at once as they may be the idea or solutions you were looking for. Even if they are not, they will lead to another solution or idea but as you can see here, you have totally changed your thinking by doing this simple daily activity.
The purpose of this article is to really get you thinking about what thoughts you think on a daily basis. You have the power to control everything bar nothing. You have to power to control your thoughts. A few subtle changes in your daily routine could result in massive changes in your results. i will leave you with this. What makes a person become who they become has got to do with his environment and obviously his genes. Ultimately this only accounts to 10%, though, the other 90% will be a result of what the person thinks about most of the time. Control your thinking my friend and you will control your life, period.
